November? Not a fan!!
 

Minirants here plz!

It was actually dry and almost clear here today but my massage therapist beat me up too much for me to feel sanguine about going out with hyper doggos yanking at my shoulders so I flaked. Probably means tomorrow will be soaking all day long. Grrr. Would really prefer some crisp fall days without the sogginess, thanks. Like THAT'S gonna happen! :flip:

Speaking of sogginess, I am ready for the hot flashes to go away forever, please. It's very hard to drive when my glasses suddenly fog up.

I didn't have hot flashes during the day but my night sweats were epic. Menopause is just another in a long list of weird shit women get saddled with that nobody tells us about.

Yup. Like, one day you wake up and realize your body is an entirely different shape than what you remembered it being most of your adult life and can't, for the life of you, recall it happening. That's when you walk into the bathroom and see you've grown a beard overnight, and rush to call your best friend, making a pact that if one of you ever ends up in a coma, the other will come every day and pluck the hairs.

Nobody told us.

Ugh, hope you feel better.

This past week or so has just been...well, let's see:

-As of tonight, the Penguins have lost 5 games in a row. And don't even get me started on the Steelers!
-My sleep schedule was all fucked up due to a killer migraine (up all night because I could not fall asleep until it finally went away)
-THEN, the next day I had a focal seizure just as I was getting out of the shower
-But the worst? Annie's appetite hasn't been that great for awhile -- we thought it might be a bad tooth. And the past two days, she was only having a nibble here and there, (although she was still incredibly thirsty). Well, my mother took her to the vet today, and it turns out, her kidneys are bad.
It's treatable -- she'll be on prescription food, and we have to give her special fluids every day, but still, she's 13. The vet said she'll have her good days, and her bad days -- mostly she'll feel like she has the flu. But this...I lost two cats the last two years, and my uncle just died this summer. I don't fucking need this.

Hard week Guin, I’m sorry. I hope Annie thrives on the new regime and surprises all.

I slept on towels for years, do not miss that one bit. I was never particularly woman shaped but finding myself suddenly a Lego figure was odd. Meanwhile my hands and wrists got dainty and show all veins in vivid detail. I had no idea what was coming, I don’t know why we don’t talk about it.

I'm going with denial on that.

Seems like it's kidneys or thyroid for cats in this house. Breaks my heart. I'm sorry, Guin. :(

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This is perfect.

Especially since the subject lends itself to such great jokes! :rimshot:

I don't have anything specific to rant about, except that November is one of the armpits of the year, the other being February.

Seriously, this whole month needs to be cancelled due to lack of ticket sales. Maybe Americans get some comfort from Thanksgiving, but you could re-schedule, cram it into December and get that whole holiday hullaballoo over in four weeks.

November in southeast Texas is spectacular! August is the humid, moist, stinking armpit of a menopausal grandmother.

Current minirant:

Teamcenter sucks big ol' donkey balls. It's software that is supposed to consolidate all our engineering work - BOMs, parts, assemblies, models, a huge array of documents. Today I can't even do a simple little revision. I've been dealing with IT for TWO DAYS!

Harumph.

:steps aside for next person:

PS - sprouting facial hair is just wrong, man. I bought a mirror with 5X magnification so I could find all the little buggers.

I knew a woman who had a 10x magnification mirror. she called it the Portal to Hell.

:astonished:

I have one of those mega magnifiers and it'll sure humble you bigtime to really get a glimpse of what's going on over there. Yikes!

I've noticed a big uptick in women getting very plain spoken and graphic about the perils and problems around women's anatomy--periods, childbirth and menopause especially--and I applaud the trend bigtime. Girls get a glossy stupid dumbed down version of what's in store for them and it comes as a shock to us all, as evidenced by the sheer number of "WHAT? You have that TOO? I thought I was the only one!" posts and comments. Doesn't help ONE BIT that basically all medical research is done only on male bodied people and the medical community has found it very convenient to dismiss our woman-centric concerns and issues with a patronizing pat on the head, a hearty "there there, little lady" and an exhortation to Lose Some Weight. This is why seat belts don't account for boobs, they only test on male bodied dummies and it means we get hurt in crashes much more often and more severely than men do. It sucks and is a rant that's far from mini!

Oh yeah! And the seatbelt won't stay between my tits! I have to use a hair-tie to keep it centered.

Get to be my age and the little tiny hairs don't mean so much.

The hot flashes and night sweats have changed from menopause related to peripheral neuropathy related. :mad: I soak my pillow at least once a night.

They sell metal doodads that clip around the seatbelt to do that job and they'll actually hold together in a crash, whereas that flimsy hair tie will snap and allow the belt to cut you in places you don't want cut. Haha, here's the Texas version!

I think Subaru did some market research and design changes because current Agnes is the first car I've had in a long time where the seat belt actually works for me and doesn't require modification. This is the advantage of a car company that made its money marketing to lesbians lol.

Ooh! Thanks, Smartie. I don't want that gun one, thankyouverymuch.

I got one of the regular ones free from the car dealership. Of course, that was in 1985...

Years ago, when I was going through menopause, I picked a male gynecologist because his CV said that he treated menopausal women. When I had my first appointment with him, I asked if the heart palpitations I was experiencing might be related to menopause. He literally hand-waved my question away and said that none of his patients ever complained about that. I mean, he made an actual dismissive waving-away gesture as soon as I asked the question. That made me think that there was something horribly wrong with me, if it wasn't something that could be chalked up to menopause.

The next year I changed to a woman gynecologist, and while sitting in her exam room waiting for her, I saw a poster on her wall. It was one of those informational medical posters, and it listed symptoms of menopause. Symptom No. 1 on the list: heart palpitations. Boy, was I pissed. All that worrying about some sort of cardiac issue for nothing.

SEE?! Oh my god, I've been dealing with this for the last five years and while I haven't been extremely concerned, it would have been nice to know this ahead of time. I want to see more frank discussions on women's health where we don't see a Parental Advisory first, as though it's something that is too disgusting to air when men and children might have to be assaulted by hearing about women and their natural physiological processes.

This deserves its own thread but I think I know exactly how that thread would turn out...

I call it the Oak Island effect. Just when you think you've hit bottom, it turns to quicksand.

I watched the short video and I think I need to get this - my seatbelt always wants to wrap around my neck. but an answer posted underneath it was not very helpful

:dubious:

Well sure, when you word it that way it makes total sense.

Wow, much Engrish! :rebo:

Could someone direct me to the rant thread for guys? Thank you.





;)

Winking eye notwithstanding, you've sort of proven the point. Along with the "deep-sea diving" comment in the pageant thread, and a few questionable statements in trans threads, I rather doubt you intended the irony.

+1

*sigh* Sometimes a joke is just a joke.


If it makes you feel any better, I'll probably be dead inside of two years. No joke.

No one is allowed to die here. No one. No one.

In 2005 I was admitted to the hossy with CHF. The cardiologist told me that 50% of his patients, in my condition, would be dead within 5 years, and 75% within 10. That was 17 years ago.

I'm pretty sure I haven't died yet.
Let me check with Sputnika,
... she wants to know if brain dead counts?

Weedy, your point is well taken. Women can't have a discussion about women things without us males making tracks all over that discussions. Other than making all women moderators, I wish I had a clue for an answer.

Poor you. And if you want to play the death card, I've got you beaten by at least a year and a half.

Helena, every time you post I hope it's good news about you. I wish you the very best and all my hope and good wishes I'm sending. We need a group hug with you.

Thanks so much, Steve. :)

Helena, you are grace personified and any time you want a hug just say the word and Kosh and I will make the road trip! :hug:

“It was just a joke and you can’t be mad bc I’m dying”

Let me surprise you

It does not. I certainly empathize with having a serious illness that leaves one's future questionable and limited. I hope sincerely that you are comfortable and not suffering physical and emotional pain.

Having said that, how the fuck am I supposed to respond? It's a joke to you, that's obvious. To the rest of us -- particularly the women who have suffered juvenile bullshit like this throughout the age of humans -- it's the perfect example of what we're saying.

Except it's couched in manipulation. Go fuck yourself.

I "see" Helena as her avatar - watchful cat. She is never far from my thoughts. We are here for you, Helena.

And I hope BJMoose's antlers shine strong and bright for a long time, too.

anyone paying attention to what Weedy has been saying and responding respectfully would have not made a "joke".

if you want to talk about your health/terminal issues then start a thread and do so. seriously: people will listen and support you. people need to be listened to with respect.

I realize you didn't grow up in a generation that taught men to communicate in an open, caring way but since you're still alive and posting it's not too late to learn.

Yeah, I was wrong to write the last line and I apologize for the GFY remark, as my point was clear without it.

Of course I also thought several posts about how women aren't given respect regarding info on our own bodies made a very clear point, too, but apparently not.

totally clear to anyone not steeped in male privilege. like a fish in water, he can't even see it.

25,000 posts Jackie!

Otherwise, please Ignore me, I’m not here.

All who rant are welcome here! All who support the rants of others as well--but since it's a rant thread a certain amount of pushback is to be expected. Thanks for pulling back a bit, Weedy, I don't think men understand just how much policing women get every single day of their lives and I applaud that we're starting to be fairly vehement about letting the world know we're tired of it. From babyhood women get sold a bill of goods about what our biology has in store for us and our legitimate fears and concerns are downplayed, mocked and outright denied and it's an insidious form of societal gaslighting that really needs to end. I think the will is there for us to correct course on these issues and the corrections will be exactly as uncomfortable as the menfolks want to make it for themselves. If they learn to simply take women at their word and stop trying to second guess and correct us (especially about our OWN BODIES) it will go much easier for them. Or not, we'll see how it goes.

Drove all of 1.2 miles to Staples, but traffic was unbelievably bad for no reason I could determine. I almost got hit from behind. I'm wondering if it was an off day for schools. Never expected that kind of traffic in November at 2pm. It is a very nice day.

OH MY F...ING GOD! My bank is trying to kill me! A couple months ago I was behind on my mortgage. I called the VA to see if they could help. Surprisingly, they could.
I sent them a copy of my bill. They called the phone # on the bill to find out EXACTLY where to send the check. They sent it on Oct 21st.

I've been calling to bank every day since the 31st. They claim they haven't received the check. That is the only part of any of those conversations that's consistent.
When I talked to my VA rep, she offered to talk to them. THEY WON'T SPEAK TO HER! I've sent them an authorization to speak to her but they said it takes at least FIVE (5) days to get emails. I just checked, I sent it to 3 emails, all failed.
I'm going to send it to my VA rep.

Call your Congressional rep first thing Monday. This is what they're there for, to help constituents deal with the constipation of bureaucracy.

wow, that's a lot. and I see I finally passed my join date as of September. :p

25001 in two months takes a lot of dedication Jackie, be proud.

I went to make breakfast and found the microwave not heating. Bugger, it had to be when we are car less. Then I realised the electric kettle wasn’t coming to a boil. When I flicked that off the nuke defrosted the crumpets. Weird. Tried putting them in the toaster, it warmed but didn’t get glowy. The fridge light was dim. Was this a network issue or a let’s blow all the weed money on an electrician problem? I called the network provider, no other reports, they can see we’re only getting one phase. Weird, they’ll send someone out who’ll tell us if it’s going to empty the stash jar.

I lurk outside hoping to see others are impacted, I finally see a neighbour go to his meter box, huzzah! He has no English but I indicate it isn’t just them and that I’ve called. He looked as relieved as me. I didn’t even know they were stoners ;) :p

Standard outage text just came through from the provider. That seals the relief but I have never had this before and it is creepy as hell. I finished partner’s crumpets under the grill in our gas stove.

JAYSUS CHRIST

1. MY FUCKING HANDS GODDAMN IT. But I FINALLY get to see the orthopedic surgeon on Tuesday. I don't have enough time to take off of work to have surgery right this minute, but I'm going to at least beg him for steroids. I can't sleep at night, I can't sit in a chair or drive a car without my whole right arm being on fire. I haven't been able to pluck my eyebrows in WEEKS

2. A glitch in my online banking app caused me to overdraft, which is my fault for not manually balancing my account before spending money but dammit, this is 2022 not 1965. Either way, I have negative dollars but you bet your ass I'm still going to the orthopedic surgeon on Tuesday and I'll just have to pay the fee because MY FUCKING HANDS GODDAMMIT I CAN BARELY TYPE THIS

3. I hate my job deeply and passionately

4. Got a bunch of claim notifications from BCBS that were rejected because the neurologist and the crazy doctor billed them to the wrong account. Yay!

5. Trying to scoop litter boxes with your non-dominant hand is a pain in the ass.

6. Also I have discovered that I can't feel hot things with my right hand anymore, so I burned the shit out of myself on some macaroni and cheese the other night. On the bright side, it doesn't hurt. Also the nail bed of my ring finger is starting to separate from the nail? Life is great.

7. Fucking DAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME IS BULLSHIT AND IT ALWAYS WAS

8. The show I am currently watching is leaving Netflix on the 30th, so I have about three weeks to finish four more seasons. Fuck you, Netflix.

9. I really need to get up and try to clean my house but I already know that instead I'm just going to lay here and stare at the wall feeling sorry for myself

10. Had to work on Halloween. Goddammit.

Ah, but we need never to take men at their word. Eh?


In a world rapidly going mad, this place was a rare oasis where I could kick off my shoes and enjoy myself. No longer. I cannot, will not, and shall not have my basic integrity and honesty questioned by petty, self-adsorbed people who know me not and, apparently, care even less.


Ciao.

I wish you well and hope you’ll let yourself come back if you change your mind. I’ve done it, they don’t make it painful.

We’ve made the outage map, 125 homes impacted. Under investigation.

ED, I am horrified, no words of any use, just facial expressions