[Khampelf]

Originally Posted by Atalanta

So do I, ideally. But in the nitty gritty step in gum flat tire world it's a goal, not a behavior. We ain't saints. We got moods. Every damn one of us. Looking for an upside can become habitual, I try and often fall short "Gee, that siren means someone's getting the help they need."

I like this. I may steal it, tweak it, and use it with my group.

I agree. It's a process. And it's hard. But I also know that the second my locus of control goes external, it's the second I have set up both myself and the world--expectation, rigidity, etc. I wonder (out loud) if it's more that maybe we don't have a choice in our feelings, but rather what we do next? Like someone can say something and maybe I feel angry (and maybe, because I'm not sure why I have a hard time NOT feeling angry, I can at least choose what to do next?)

I'll have to think about this more. Thanks for the brain candy.

You're welcome. Just be sure to attribute my quote under my working name, "This one guy on the internet"