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Originally Posted by bufftabby
Solfy, maybe you could make a list of all the things that need to be done and present it to him as a joint effort. Ask him to choose some tasks that he would like to personally commit to handling. He may not realize how many things need to be done because your awesome self always makes it look effortless, and hopefully get some perspective on just how much of the load you're bearing. Also, if you're initialing as things are completed, it would also provide a concrete illustration of any disparity between who's actually accomplishing how much.
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I've been handling it almost that way in a sort of verbal version. "Here is what needs to be done this week - which job(s) will you be doing?" I just get tired of always being the one in charge of that. It makes me feel like the mother of a really old teenager instead of a partner/spouse. (this is true in many situations, not just Christmas prep) I've explained this frustration several times, but I just don't think it sinks in. The alternative is not directing everything, and then nothing happens/gets done and that pisses me off, too.
The good news is I'm starting to sleep at night again, so I'm 75% less pissy today.
I'm sorry about your friend, Harridan. I wish him swift passing and peace.