Durp Snark #165. Still Alive

[Someone]

I know I'm being a bitch but I feel it's deserved here. It'd be one thing if he'd owned up to it and apologized for being gross back then but the fact that he's told different stories about it over the years and the fact that he reposted a link to the fucking pics in this very thread tells me ain't much changed

[Someone]

So... I guess you don't want to see my dick pics, then?

:: d & r ::

[Someone]

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

I know I'm being a bitch but I feel it's deserved here. It'd be one thing if he'd owned up to it and apologized for being gross back then but the fact that he's told different stories about it over the years and the fact that he reposted a link to the fucking pics in this very thread tells me ain't much changed

You seem to be basing your opinion on a set of 'facts' that are not true. The following is the truth, with most of the prurient details left out.

Back in the days when most Dopers were also on LiveJournal, it became clear that a female Doper (she shall remain nameless) genuinely wanted nude photos of me. I confirmed this by talking with her by private message. After it became clear that she was serious, I warned her that I would somehow get the photos taken and mail them to her. I checked at every step to be sure that she knew I was serious and that she consented. Eventually, she received a CD of the photos in the mail. This was only possible because she had provided me with her address- for the express purpose of sending the CD of NSFW photos. I will simply state that she was very happy with the photos. That is the only time I have ever mailed any Doper a CD of the photos.

As I said earlier, I cannot remember why I started a thread apologizing for sending out CD's of NSFW photos to other Dopers. I do know- IT NEVER HAPPENED. I only sent a CD to one Doper. She repeatedly and emphatically requested the photos and again, gave me her address so I could send them.

A few years later, a lot of people had digital cameras and the SDMB was filled with various photo threads. Somebody started a thread asking if we could have a Doper NSFW photo thread. TubaDiva herself gave permission and laid out the rules. I immediately uploaded a photo to a hosting site and started the thread. Naturally, many people disapproved. Most of these people complained publicly. A surprisingly large number felt the need to complain to me personally by e-mail or private message. As soon as I realized it was a complaint, I deleted the message. A number of people approved. A few posted their approval in the thread or in comments on the photo hosting site. Most felt more comfortable contacting me by e-mail or private message to express their appreciation. A few sent photos or videos of their own, or gave the name they used on an instant messenger program. Many of the Dopers contacting me expressed interest in seeing more photos (I had originally uploaded only one) or a video. I did have a primitive web cam. They got a video. You have already described the content. I got complaints about the technical limitations of my web cam from a few people. All the recipients were pleased with the content. Then, the mistake happened.

I was dealing with a very large amount of e-mails and private messages. I was deleting the complaints. I was answering questions asked by those complimenting the photos, saying 'thank you' etc. I do not remember the screen name of the female Doper in question. I don't have the private message or e-mail in question any longer. From what I remember, what she meant was 'What were you going for aesthetically/artistically?'. What she actually wrote was roughly 'I want to see more'. I misunderstood her request and sent her the video. At the time, I thought that was what she was asking for. It was not. She was extremely and publicly upset. I would have been too. I did apologize and told my side of the story. After that, I was very careful to be certain precisely what anybody who contacted me privately was saying and exactly what they were requesting.

That is the entirety of what happened.

I sent one CD to one Doper who repeatedly confirmed she wanted it and gave me her address so I could mail it to her.

I did send a video to a number of Dopers by e-mail. I misunderstood the message one Doper sent and honestly thought she was requesting a video. Before that, all the people I sent it to had positive responses. After that, I made very sure to ask whether they wanted the video, and understood the contents, before I sent it.


I have not told different stories over the years. I have told the truth.

I would have responded sooner, but when you said I was "gross" I thought you were objecting to my sharing photos and videos with other adults who had consented to view them. I didn't realize what you meant. Yes, sharing NSFW photos and videos with other CONSENTING adults is my kink. Showing such things to people who have not consented to view them is so very much not my kink. You will note all the warnings I have given- in the original NSFW photo thread, in the description in my profile with the new link, and elsewhere.

[Someone]

Speaking of kinks, aren''t you also the guy who posted about your fantasy of sticking a gun in a woman's vagina and firing it with a single bullet in the chamber? Described as "erotic russian roulette"?

[Someone]

So you post link to that shit in this thread and now want us to believe you are innocent of distributing self-porn on the internet?

[Someone]

My bad for bringing this up. I’ve been out of the loop. I wasn’t aware of the additional drama surrounding dopers naked photos. And a CD with gawd knows what being filmed.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

My bad for bringing this up. I’ve been out of the loop. I wasn’t aware of the additional drama surrounding dopers naked photos. And a CD with gawd knows what being filmed.

Hey it's cool, snark thread hasn't had this much action in awhile