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I'm trying to remember the last time I was truly happy.

I can't.

Two years ago right about now, I officially stopped taking birth control pills. Had I gotten pregnant on that first cycle, we'd have a 15-month-old.

We don't have a 15-month-old. We don't have a baby. We've never had a pregnancy. I'm feeling pretty much in the pit of despair these days, for a variety of reasons, but most of all because we're still in limbo and even if we both get jobs soon and we save money and we decide we're ready to try IVF, if it doesn't work on the first try,...

My intention for National Infertility Awareness Week this year was to dispel some myths about infertility, particularly for most of the people I know who have never been through or close with anyone going through infertility. If you've made it this far through my Notes this week, you know I've been writing about the worst things to say to someone who is dealing with infertility or subfertility. Today, I'm going to talk about what are the best things to say to someone who is infertile, and the three...

In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, I'm posting a series of Notes about what, in my opinion, are the 3 worst things to say to someone dealing with infertility. Today is #1: "Everything happens for a reason."



"How can that possibly be the worst thing to say to someone who is infertile?" you say. "What's wrong with that?" Whether it's couched in a religious sentiment ("God doesn't give us things we can't handle" or...

In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week, I'm writing a series of Notes about what are, in my opinion, the 3 worst things to say to someone who is going through infertility (and then the 3 best things). Next up, #2: "Have you tried _____?"



To someone who has never been exposed to or had to deal with infertility, it may seem like an innocuous question. When someone tells you they're having a problem, naturally you want to help solve it. However, for...