Snarkin' NINE to FIVE, what a way to make a durpin'.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Men get huffy over being "ghosted" and keep doubling down in the face of many women telling them that it's the easiest way of getting away from a guy without drama and insults and harassment. They just dun't geddit.

That thread, post #2

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I don't want to defend it but I have done it to lots of people and have had it done to me as well. I think it is wrong on some level as well but it is the result of too many conflicting priorities.

I am on Match, Bumble and Tinder. I get about 4 new requests a day among them and I respond to about 20% of them and go out with many of them. That adds up to a whole lot of people in a short time. How many "breakups" do you expect me to do?

I am a 44 year old guy. I can only imagine what it is like if you are an attractive twenty-something woman. I have asked them about it and they often just get overwhelmed to the point of just ignoring their accounts completely. Some of them already found someone and others get creeped out when someone keeps messaging them over and over.

It just gets to be emotionally draining.


Farming the internet for women must be quite tiring.

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Not content to be suitably outraged at a handsy elite party, MrDibble says "but even if they were warned and were okay with this for the money, they were still forced to do this by the capitalistic patriarchy amirite?" while DrDumbth JAQs off and wonders if the women maybe were warned about the customary events

But you know how millenials are- maybe they were but they didnt pay attention.

Yep, if I were warned about sexual harassment I'd just totes forget anyone said anything.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

"I'm sorry but our system won't accept any type of American Express card, which includes gift cards I'm afraid." Conversation over. Jesus, she does this for a living?

You've never worked retail, have you?

A fool An America consumer is born every minute.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

You've never worked retail, have you?

A fool An America consumer is born every minute.

Yep. I'm no fan of Annie's, but when you get one of those customers whose "thought" process appears to be "Maybe if I ask a MILLION BILLION JILLION TIMES they'll do what I want just to make me shut up and go away" even the most simple and common sensible response will make about as much impact as a marshmallow on a Panzer tank.

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Originally Posted by Someone

Yep. I'm no fan of Annie's, but when you get one of those customers whose "thought" process appears to be "Maybe if I ask a MILLION BILLION JILLION TIMES they'll do what I want just to make me shut up and go away" even the most simple and common sensible response will make about as much impact as a marshmallow on a Panzer tank.

Yeah, those customers are awful, it's absolutely true. And if her story was that the customer was asking the exact same thing over and over while Annie tried to explain several different ways, well then I would go over to that dollar store myself and clap for her triumphant rapport. But it seems more like the thought process was reversed in this case. The customer kept trying to confirm that she understood it was a gift card and not a credit card so that they could be sure that the store didn't accept either, and Annie was the one who seemed to think that repeating the same thing a MILLION BILLION JILLION TIMES would make the customer no longer require an answer to the actual question being asked.

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Yeah, I think if anyone other than Annie had posted that story, it wouldn't have even been noticed. It's the fact that Ms. Smarter-Than-Thou posted it that makes it snarkworthy, because you know she tries to build herself up to look oh-so-clever in that story when it was really more like she became hostile toward the customer so the HC came over to chill the situation. The warning given for personal insults is also a reason I hate their "no confrontation outside of the pit, it all goes to the pit" rule. There's no reason to start a pit thread over her comment, but her "I'm smarter than 98% of the world" begged for some sort of passing response.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

You've never worked retail, have you?

A fool An America consumer is born every minute.

Oh yeah, plenty of years in both retail and food service. Met my fair share of the clueless, belligerent and overly-entitled, but her particular anecdote sounded like she was going out of her way to not clarify the situation.

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I used to let the stubborn ones keep trying their Amex card over and over and over in the reader until they finally gave up. Usually the next person in line would be the one who finally forced the comprehension threshold enough to get them over their obsession.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Actually retard-boy, I was participating in the lovely thread (as in here) when you popped up to delurk with your little creepy boy slimy bigotty stalker obsession.

There ain't no following you around, slimey idiot boy. It's when you pop up to pollute a snark thread that I am happily following withour your slimely presence.

Pathetic idiot, go back to your next failed sockery. Snark threads are more interesting for your absence, slime ball.

Take it to the Pit, bitch.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Men get huffy over being "ghosted" and keep doubling down in the face of many women telling them that it's the easiest way of getting away from a guy without drama and insults and harassment. They just dun't geddit.

I'm sympathetic to the rationale behind ghosting (and also relieved to be married so I don't have to contend with that—or any other—modern dating bullshit), but I also find Screeching Justice Warlock Pantastic to be completely insufferable.

No, really. I tried to suffer him, at least twice. Couldn't do it.

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Well, there's plenty of durp to go around in that thread.

[Someone]

Why am I not surprised that Der Trihs was bullied in high school? (Something tells me there was more to the story)

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Originally Posted by Someone

I'm sympathetic to the rationale behind ghosting (and also relieved to be married so I don't have to contend with that—or any other—modern dating bullshit), but I also find Screeching Justice Warlock Pantastic to be completely insufferable.

No, really. I tried to suffer him, at least twice. Couldn't do it.

I'm not caught up in that thread yet* but so far I have agreed with everything he says.

Why am I not surprised that Der Trihs was bullied in high school? (Something tells me there was more to the story)

*this is one long ass thread!

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

*this is one long ass-thread!

XKCD-d that for you

[Someone]

Re Annie Amex: Well, we don't know for sure if she actually clarified IRL that it included gift cards.

(Count me in on the "you never worked retail, have you?" brigade.)

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I have, and I say that Annie was still a jackass.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

XKCD-d that for you

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I'm very sympathetic to retail worker's woes, I worked retail for over a decade. But Annie is a fucking whackjob and if she actually just kept repeating the same statement over and over then she was doing a shitty job at explaining. I would bet money that when the supervisor got involved she clarified that an AmEx gift card is treated the same as an AmEx credit card, and since they don't take AmEx credit cards, they couldn't accept the gift card. Annie is a fan of telling stories like this, framing the other person as the stupid/out of line one, and never seems aware that she comes off as a lunatic.

[Someone]

She can't help coming off as a lunatic, because she is a lunatic.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Take it to the Pit, bitch.

Here, I'll hold y'alls glasses.

[Someone]

http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/...75&postcount=1

Bizzarre obvious newbie troll thread in the pit. Two separate bullies on two separate Completely unrelated series of incidence decided to pick on our virtuous hero by claiming he was having incest with his brother. Then both went after him into separate, unrelated, group chats. Of course the SDMB is largely falling for it hook line and sinker.

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Originally Posted by Someone

http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/...75&postcount=1

Bizzarre obvious newbie troll thread in the pit. Two separate bullies on two separate Completely unrelated series of incidence decided to pick on our virtuous hero by claiming he was having incest with his brother. Then both went after him into separate, unrelated, group chats. Of course the SDMB is largely falling for it hook line and sinker.

Someone should ask whether they used protection.

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Originally Posted by Someone

http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/...75&postcount=1

Bizzarre obvious newbie troll thread in the pit. Two separate bullies on two separate Completely unrelated series of incidence decided to pick on our virtuous hero by claiming he was having incest with his brother. Then both went after him into separate, unrelated, group chats. Of course the SDMB is largely falling for it hook line and sinker.

It's not in the pit.

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Huh. I thought it was. Oh well, my response certainly wasn’t Inappropriate. A little snarky maybe but certainly acceptable for any forum

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Men get huffy over being "ghosted" and keep doubling down in the face of many women telling them that it's the easiest way of getting away from a guy without drama and insults and harassment. They just dun't geddit.

99% probability that they are the exact same men who will hound you for days or weeks, trying to guilt-trip you into "giving them a chance", and then call you a whore before finally giving up, and then message you again three weeks later, if you tell them that you just aren't feeling it and wish them luck.

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See now, YOU know that, and *I* know that, and most women know that but see, we just don't UNDERSTAND how our rudeness is SOOOOOOO much worse than any potential abuse and stalking and invective and physical danger we might be inviting if we draw out a break off. And they JUST WANT ANSWERS IS ALL and their responses to being broken up with are never anything other than a tip of the fedora and a genial "As you wish, m'lady!" and they're quite sure all the other men are the same and us bitches are just being oversensitive AS USUAL.

[Someone]

Why does Redbox exist?

Because people like to rent movies. Duh.

[Someone]

alterego complains about drug dogs sniffing his junk in airports.

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Originally Posted by Someone

Men get huffy over being "ghosted" and keep doubling down in the face of many women telling them that it's the easiest way of getting away from a guy without drama and insults and harassment. They just dun't geddit.

The whole thread is amazing, with people just arguing past each other left and right, along with more than one instance of "we're not talking about THAT kind of ghosting!" when yeah, lots of people were talking about THAT kind.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

alterego complains about drug dogs sniffing his junk in airports.

How is that snark? Seems like a valid complaint to me. If it actually happens. I wouldn't know because I avoid airports like a plague of locusts with herpes.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

alterego complains about drug dogs sniffing his junk in airports.

Yep. He's an idiot. Because no one ever shoves their baggie of weed down their underwear.

[Someone]

And now...

Originally Posted by Someone

Moved to Great Debates.

Why do I find that so hilarious?

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

And now...

Why do I find that so hilarious?

because it IS hilarious!

[Someone]

Wanna buy a used mattress, cheap?

No, me neither.

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Originally Posted by Someone

Yep. He's an idiot. Because no one ever shoves their baggie of weed down their underwear.

In California, just give your bag of weed to the TSA, they will give it to the airport authority, who will take you into a back room and give it back to you, assuming it's not like 10 pounds or so.

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Those class reunion threads always crack me up. I had a co-worker who was like most of those dopers, who was always going on about how she didn't like those people in school, so why would she want to see them now/they were terrible people then so they're still terrible people. It was just inconceivable to her that they could be different, better, more mature people 20+ years later. Granted, in her case, she hadn't changed much since she was younger (I happened to have known her when she was younger), so I could see why she would think nobody else could have. But it just astounds me that people can be so stunted that they assume everyone else is just as stunted.
The last reunion I went to, a guy I never got along with in HS was there. He and I did not get along at all and couldn't stand each other. At the reunion, we sat and talked for hours and had a great time. Why? Because we both had matured since those days and realized the people we were then are not the people we are now.

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Three immature try to resolve where to watch the Super Bowl.

1) Friend invites Poster to Super Bowl party at friend's favorite bar.
2) Poster agrees to go
3) Poster's wife suddenly decides this fut-bol thing is suuuuper interesting, so poster should cancel and go to (I assume) a fern bar.
4) Poster leaves a message cancelling with his friend
5) Friend behaves like a 12 year old girl. (Dozens of messages where "But whyyyyyyyyyyyyyy?" is the most mature)
6) Poster posts situation there and gets hyper-defensive.
Meltdown may ensue

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

You can appreciate how frustrating it must be for her, being smarterer than 98% of the rest of the world and all.

Wow, that was a level of cringe I was not expecting.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

See now, YOU know that, and *I* know that, and most women know that but see, we just don't UNDERSTAND how our rudeness is SOOOOOOO much worse than any potential abuse and stalking and invective and physical danger we might be inviting if we draw out a break off. And they JUST WANT ANSWERS IS ALL and their responses to being broken up with are never anything other than a tip of the fedora and a genial "As you wish, m'lady!" and they're quite sure all the other men are the same and us bitches are just being oversensitive AS USUAL.

The ones that freak me out are the ones who are like "But if you texted each other A LOT on Tuesday, like 17 times, and then she just STOPS RESPONDING though!" OMG she's not your girlfriend, you don't even know her; she's just some girl you're pestering, .

I have been on the receiving end of those guys, and they basically try to badger you into being interested by texting way too much, refuse to take the hint when your responses are disinterested, delayed, or monosyllabic, and then act like you had a relationship because they texted you so many times.

[Someone]

squish7, mentioned in the previous snark thread has a contribution for GQ.

I finally found a question on SD I'm smart enough to contribute to!

He then proceeds to babble on in a less than sane manner that has absolutely no relevance to the OP.

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Originally Posted by Someone

Those class reunion threads always crack me up. I had a co-worker who was like most of those dopers, who was always going on about how she didn't like those people in school, so why would she want to see them now/they were terrible people then so they're still terrible people. It was just inconceivable to her that they could be different, better, more mature people 20+ years later. Granted, in her case, she hadn't changed much since she was younger (I happened to have known her when she was younger), so I could see why she would think nobody else could have. But it just astounds me that people can be so stunted that they assume everyone else is just as stunted.
The last reunion I went to, a guy I never got along with in HS was there. He and I did not get along at all and couldn't stand each other. At the reunion, we sat and talked for hours and had a great time. Why? Because we both had matured since those days and realized the people we were then are not the people we are now.

I have never been to a class reunion. My 35th was last year. Why? In a graduating class of like 600, I didn't know most of them. It was a rough school. There were two armed guards on patrol at all times. I have no ill feelings towards any of the ones that I knew but I didn't really form any kind of bond with any but the four or so that I still see from time to time. I have no doubt that all of them have changed as much as I have but who the fuck cares? We just were in the same space for three years in the early 80s.

On occasion I will get contacted from someone from back in the day. I am easy enough to find. I have a facebook page and my first and last name combination is literally unique. It's kind of nice but after a few messages the conversation dies out. For my personal situation, I don't see the point.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

squish7, mentioned in the previous snark thread has a contribution for GQ.

He then proceeds to babble on in a less than sane manner that has absolutely no relevance to the OP.

I know a guy IRL who is so like squish it's a little unsettling.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

squish7, mentioned in the previous snark thread has a contribution for GQ.

He then proceeds to babble on in a less than sane manner that has absolutely no relevance to the OP.

Actually, his answer DOES provide some important information, although probably not in the way he intended:

I'm a "lite" schizophrenic. (Footnote: technically, I'm schizoaffective which is lite-schizophrenia meets lite-bipolar; I also have potent ADHD, but don't worry about any of that! And FYI for any future employer searching the net for dirt about me, I'm also well medicated.)

That explains a LOT.

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Originally Posted by Someone

Actually, his answer DOES provide some important information, although probably not in the way he intended:

That explains a LOT.

It's also the same dx as the guy i know irl. But he knows that calling someone a tool is not a positive thing. And the guy i know? Filmmaker aspirations, as well.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

The warning given for personal insults is also a reason I hate their "no confrontation outside of the pit, it all goes to the pit" rule. There's no reason to start a pit thread over her comment, but her "I'm smarter than 98% of the world" begged for some sort of passing response.

Agreed.

Also, much as i quite like Asimovian, i thought the warning was bullshit. The post by Eyebrows of Doom was snarky, but i don't think it was a direct personal insult. And it was exactly what she deserved. If you open the door by claiming that you're smarter than 98% of the population, other people should be able to question that claim without it being deemed a personal insult.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

Wanna buy a used mattress, cheap?

No, me neither.

At last, Bosda's chance to shine.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

The ones that freak me out are the ones who are like "But if you texted each other A LOT on Tuesday, like 17 times, and then she just STOPS RESPONDING though!" OMG she's not your girlfriend, you don't even know her; she's just some girl you're pestering, .

I have been on the receiving end of those guys, and they basically try to badger you into being interested by texting way too much, refuse to take the hint when your responses are disinterested, delayed, or monosyllabic, and then act like you had a relationship because they texted you so many times.

I swear to the gods when I become Empress of the World I will sentence these idiots to a mandatory eight hours of reading through r/niceguys posts and comments. If, after that, they still hold their stupid views I will put them all on a desert island together with no fedoras and we'll see how long it takes them to massacre each other.

[Someone]

Originally Posted by Someone

squish7, mentioned in the previous snark thread has a contribution for GQ.

He then proceeds to babble on in a less than sane manner that has absolutely no relevance to the OP.

I went to a confession once, I said "I only ask questions on Straight Dope"

I'll bet he's still saying Hail Mary.

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Originally Posted by Someone

I have never been to a class reunion. My 35th was last year. Why? In a graduating class of like 600, I didn't know most of them. It was a rough school. There were two armed guards on patrol at all times. I have no ill feelings towards any of the ones that I knew but I didn't really form any kind of bond with any but the four or so that I still see from time to time. I have no doubt that all of them have changed as much as I have but who the fuck cares? We just were in the same space for three years in the early 80s.

On occasion I will get contacted from someone from back in the day. I am easy enough to find. I have a facebook page and my first and last name combination is literally unique. It's kind of nice but after a few messages the conversation dies out. For my personal situation, I don't see the point.

That's qualitatively different from the people who won't go because they're still nursing grudges from 30 years ago.

[Someone]

Leo Bloom, Idiot. There are no words for this one.