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When is it OK to lie?
Yeah, I know you all lie.
SINNERS!! *ahem* This is a discussion of the morality of lying and when and why people should be allowed to do it. I'll define lying as: Quote:
Several philosophers, chiefly among them, Immanuel Kant, Thomas Aquinas and Saint Augustine all reason that all lying should be prohibited. They argue that it takes away people's right to reason when the truth is not given to them. Virtue ethics also contends that lying is not acceptable since it devalues someone's character. But the utilitarians disagree and say that lying is acceptable if more people are spared from being hurt from the lie. But that leaves it in the hands of the people doing the lying to judge whether people are being hurt. So why do you lie and when is it OK? Last edited by Roo; 19th August 2010 at 11:03 AM. Reason: mods, don't move this |
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I think the first part of this that needs to be examined is the transactory economy of lying. Information is a commodity, and as such we hold power over the truth as a form of metaphysical currency. One has more power if they have access to privileged information.
Then the second part is the problem as related by Pontius Pilate to Jesus just before he washes his hands and seals his fate. 'What is Truth?', truth can be highly subjective and one truth can supplant another. In this case, the religious truth of this Judaic heretic was irrelevant to the Roman Governor, though I've always read that bit as Pilate having sympathy for Jesus. |
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The problem with that sort of communication of the truth is that it engenders panic. A stampede of panicking people means that some could be killed in the rush to get out. They may not have been killed had the person with the information told a half-truth. "Due to a reported emergency, all customers must leave the building immediately". The second statement is calmer, has enough vagueness to not panic people yet also enough vagueness to make people attend to it and leave quietly and quickly. The end result is that by withholding the truth (at least in part) you have done greater good than by being completely honest. To debate something philosphically often misses the realities of life. We could all kick this up and down and come to agreement that either it is always wrong to lie or it is not. But then we'd go out in the world and find occasions where life proved us wrong for that particular circumstance. For example, my view is that to lie to gain personal power is wrong. But I acknowledge that I benefit from others lying - nobody tells me explicitly that my cheap tshirt from ASDA (WalMart) was made overseas by someone in a factory working long hours for little money. By concealing the truth they gain but so do I because I don't have to think about truth. So now I cannot say that it is wrong to lie to make personal gain because I directly benefit from the lies of others. That's a really poor example but my brain is tired today and I can't think of a better one. |
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Yes, that's the utilitarian view from the OP:
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So the lie on the part of the shirt-seller is not that obvious. If people want to disregard the truth, that's a little different. |
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I'll take this on for a moment.
This is fairly easy for me, since I don't think there's an absolute Truth. Therefore, if everything we say is not absolute truth, and if that qualifies it as a lie, then I think that lying is ok all of the time. Otherwise, we'd all walk around in silence. For me, there are shades of truth and shades of not truth and shades on either side of those shades. So, are we talking lighter grey or darker grey? I'm a non-absolute truth teller all the time. I admit it. |
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Why do you (or other people) do that and why is it acceptable? |
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The problem with the stance that Kant etc take is that it doesn't take into account the realities of people as social beings. We need to live in groups to survive well. When living in groups we cannot be brutally honest at all times or we're going to create bad feeling or conflict. It's a noble idea but not a practical one. A friend I once had maintained that she shouldn't have to lock her front door because stealing was wrong. While I do agree with her I also accept the reality that some people steal and that it is impractical to ignore that. Again, she's got a very noble view of how humanity should be but a very vague view of how we actually are.
For myself, I try not to lie. I've actually just written something that originally had a slight untruth in it. The untruth being there for humorous purposes. It took me a long time to write because I felt very uncomfortable presenting something that was not absolutely true. In the end I had to rework it so the humour was still there but so the lie wasn't actually a lie. I'm not generally comfortable in a world where people will not tell the truth. (I'm discounting things like 'Oh your hair is lovely!' because to my mind that is a social smoother which promotes good feeling in the group). I know this is because I can be very literal-minded at times so the idea that people routinely say stuff that's not true is a bit jarring when I work it out. |
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But are the realities shaped by the lies we accept? I've noticed that my friends from Romania would easily and happily tell each other that the dress someone is wearing is ugly. And they feel that they're doing a service to them by being truthful. It seems to me that different cultures accept different degrees of honesty in different areas as social lubrication. But not all cultures are the same as what social lubrication is required in what situations. Quote:
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The trouble with imagining the world as a perfect, idealistic model is that the world rarely lives up to it.
For instance: by lying to somebody you take away their right to reason. I don't publish my bank account number and debit PIN because I don't want people to know those things. However, by stealing my money, thieves are taking away my property. This doesn't seem to stop them, does it? So as long as there are people who are free to take away my rights, I'll continue to pre-emptively take away theirs. It all comes down to numbers and logic. Assume 1 in 1000 people is a scoundrel. Assume that secrets escape; information tends to become available. Once you reveal information you have no control who obtains it. Therefore, assume by telling 1 person the truth, 1000 people will hear it. Therefore, assume that by telling the truth, at least 1 scoundrel will hear it. Therefore, lying is reasonable because eventually, somebody can and will use that information to harm you. You're taking away the "right to reason" of 999 people in order to target that 1 scoundrel who doesn't respect rights. |
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I play mafia.
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The first part of my OP is for you. The scourge of the earth.
*I play mafia too. That was a joke. |
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I lie when ever someone asks me something that is none of their business and I feel the need to protect my privacy. There's not a lot of topics I feel the need to private myself about, but there are some. Most people aren't rude enough to intrude in the private areas, so it doesn't come up often.
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Saying that you won't be giving out private information isn't a lie because you haven't said anything you don't believe. |
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Is it because they're both lies, so they're equal in value? |
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If a police officer asks you if you've ever broken the law. If you're applying for a job and the interviewer asks you if you're married. If you've just met somebody, but you're also sort-of-seeing somebody else, and you're not committed to either as a relationship yet. If you're shopping for a big-ticket item and the salesman asks what your budget is. In all of those situations, saying the utterly true "that's personal and I'm not going to tell you" can have unwelcome consequences for you, and standing on your right not to speak won't prevent those consequences from happening. |
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Where's the part where it's necessary for someone to lie? |
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Well now, these are perfectly reasonable. Necessary, even.
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And since they're on a dead-man switch, he'd really HAVE my nukes, if you know whut I'm sayin. WORST PRESIDENT EVER! |
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Maybe you should tell your husband. Then perhaps he and you could do something more entertaining than posting off-topics posts in this thread.
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I agree. If this is the most interesting thing you can find to do, go for it!
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And I gotta say, I don't get why the outpatients are out in force today, in this thread. Maybe they missed a round of medication from Nurse Ratched.
Look, you guys complain when Roo has nothing to say except "I'm just saying." When Roo actually has an interesting philosophical point to make, or a question to discuss, don't you think that kind of thing should be encouraged? Good grief. Monkeys, all. |
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I know. If only this board had a forum for philosophical discussions where off-topic posting is discouraged...
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So you're basically saying that everybody's being a douchebag to prove a point?
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*what the Grand Point is, is less clear |
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Especially since you won't tell anybody why you only start threads in the box now. Not that I blame you. "Because I'm a passive-aggressive twat" must be a hard thing to admit.
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This was all the response that was necessary. I can't see that fighting passive-aggressiveness with further passive-aggressiveness is good for anybody.
I don't even go to the Box, usually, but your continued bumping of the thread keeps an interesting thread title bobbing to the surface. Nobody would know this thread was here if you'd just ignored it. |
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Anyone interested in the topic who would like to discuss it without all the hijacks and silliness is welcome to cut and paste the OP into a PPR thread. |
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You're an idiot. You started a thread in the Box, and I will readily admit that I shat all over it just for fun. That's because the fucking thread IS IN THE FUCKING BOX, YOU IDIOT! Had you started a serious discussion in, oh, I don't know, the PPR Forum, I wouldn't have done what I did here. Had I participated in the thread at all, I would have done my best to contribute in an interesting and meaningful way pertinent to the subject at hand. And even if I had gotten it in my head to share a picture of a woman hugging a giant penis in the midst of the hypothetical thread-in-the-proper-forum, the mods could have come along to remind me that I shouldn't do that. What's more, if I had persisted in shitting all over your stupid thread, they could have shuffled me off to the Box to prevent me from continuing with it. That's kinda how the whole thing is supposed to work. And I have a guess as to what's next: you constRooing this to mean that this is the perfect demonstration of why the Box isn't suited to your Perfect Ideal Forum Utopia because it's for punishment, and this just demonstrates why we should have a special Free-For-All forum that's more differenter and betterer than what we have now. To everyone else: I am heartily, heartily sorry for my part in turning this into yet another "I'M ROO AND I LIKE TO BITCH AND COMPLAIN AND YOU NEED TO PAY ATTENTION TO ME AND MY SPECIAL IMPORTANT IDEAS ABOUT HOW TO IMPROVE THE BAORDS!!!!!1!!!1!" thread. Wasn't my intention. Sorry. Please don't whip me or set Fenris on me or anything like that, Mr. Giraffe. I'll be good from now on, I promise. Here's a picture of a woman in a cowboy outfit riding a giant penis. |
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And frankly, it's freer here. In a free-for-all forum, I could box someone even if I shouldn't. Here? What can I do to someone who "misbehaves"? Throw them in the box? Hi. My name is Fenris and I approve of and endorse this campaign of blatantly weird, but vaguely hot NSFW pic links |
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