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Well, the furnace is DEAD. Its so old that they can't even get replacement parts. We can't get a loan for it and we don't have the $8K they want.
I've been calling all the resources I can think of but the only one that's gotten back to me so far is our home owners insurance. I knew it was a long shot.  At least we have electric blankets and a fire place. 
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8th February 2023, 01:50 PM
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More seizures -- I'm still not totally with it.
I'm so sad about your Lucy, Plumbean -- that's my kitty's name. She lost her sister Annie back in November. 
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8th February 2023, 02:24 PM
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8th February 2023, 06:27 PM
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Someone from the City of Seattle called me back.We'll be put on a wait list for a free or cheap furnace once I get and fill out and mail the application. Yes, our city government is that backward. Nope, I can't do it on line, nope I can't email it. Nope, they can't email the form to me!
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8th February 2023, 07:16 PM
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Oh man, life is pooping on you bigtime right now, I'm so sorry. Jag is right, though, those oil radiators work great and are relatively easy on your electric bill. I used one at the north end of the crapshack for years, in the bathroom, which was as far from any heat source as it was possible to be in there and it worked great. I would even drape my towel over it in the morning before my shower, a toasty warm towel is a wonderful thing on a cold morning. Best thing about the oil radiators is they're very safe and if you just leave them on low all the time it's amazing how well they keep things warm. Two or three of those things will likely keep you going until things warm up and/or until you can score a new furnace.
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9th February 2023, 09:12 AM
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AGAIN.
A FUCKING GAIN. health care agency sends letter to my husband urging him to schedule a colonoscopy. this fucker, I FAXED them 1/25 that he was deceased and no longer needing their services and for them to stop contacting us; another letter. today. I'm running out of ways to deal. this time, I've contacted my state house representative - maybe they can get these assholes attention.
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9th February 2023, 11:53 AM
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Oh man, that would be comedy gold and Snookie would be HOWLING with laughter from wherever he is now! If you're worried about the postal workers, stick the mess in a baggie because you know anyone stupid enough to ignore that a patient has freaking died will of course open the baggie to find out what's in there. You can also fold it so the manky side isn't that visible--or do the old baby shower trick and use peanut butter and chocolate instead of actual poo.
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12th February 2023, 10:53 AM
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Do you have a Trader Joe's available to you? Because they do concentrated cranberry extract in pill form and it's absolutely awesome to get you started on the road to recovery, if it doesn't kill it off on its own. I used to keep a bottle around and start taking them as soon as the slightest bit of burning showed up during peetime. Knocked it right out. Now that I no longer have dirty boys and their pps around I don't need the stuff but I swear it's magical.
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13th February 2023, 01:08 AM
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I saw my mom yesterday and she's old and gray. In my mind she's perpetually thirty, with hair the same color as mine and wearing obnoxious 80's headbands, and she's much taller than me. But she's not any of those things, and hasn't been for years. I didn't really see it until now.
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had breakfast w/baby bro and my son this am (that's a rave, not a rant). on way home, son mentioned he'd seen his dad a few days ago (here comes the rant). Now, he and his dad have been estranged for a number of years, recently reconnected. Son is trying to have some sort of relationship. his dad is, well "trying".
He apparently told son and g/f he wanted to take them out to lunch, so, they went. and his dad mentioned that he was getting dentures due to failing teeth, so had all of his teeth pulled. had some gold fillings, which he sold. to be able to afford to take son and g/f out to lunch. I mean what the actual fuck. why on earth would you give that info??? "by the way, had to sell off a kidney for that sandwich you're eating, hope you enjoy it". what a waste of atoms.
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15th February 2023, 06:02 AM
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in all the shopping I've been doing for my new Studio (doesn't that sound better than One Room Apartment? or, worse, "efficiency"?) it makes me sad that buying new stuff is often both better and less expensive than shopping at the local thrift stores.
this isn't right, but oh well. 
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15th February 2023, 06:07 AM
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Do you have a Good Will near you at all? They seem to be the cheapest of the thrift stores.
I know we have a fair number of antique/junk stores in town and while a dresser or table might cost a little more than an Ikea or Sauder special, they're general old and made of real wood and very cheap compared to a new real wooden dresser.
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15th February 2023, 06:23 AM
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yes, and Goodwill is one of the places I've shopped a lot. as an example, their coffee mugs are ugly and cost $3.99 - $5.99 whereas I got new cute ones for $1.25 at the "dollar" store.
I bought 4 beautiful turquoise glasses for $3.99 at Ikea - would have been more for whatever they have at goodwill, not as nice, and not new. I would rather re-use things than buy new stuff but not if it's both not as good AND more expensive. 
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2 days ago I went to urgent care to get antibiotics for this dang infection I think I had.
Context, I had been off a benzo (0.5 mg dose) for a couple days. I take it for anxiety. I woke up feeling pretty okay, just strange vision which is kinda the norm for me. I then somehow didn't think it would be bad if I had some coffee. I then went to the doc's and was perfectly fine until the nurse took me back. I started to have a panic attack, which added to said previous context. My blood pressure absolutely crashed. It was only slightly low at the doc's, but it only got lower and lower. By the time I had gotten home, I was in pretty serious danger of passing out. I could hardly walk. If it had gotten any worse, I likely would've gone to the hospital, but I didn't. That was scary as shit. Ever since, I haven't felt very good. On top of it all, I have a muscle caught in my back and it's keeping me from turning my head certain ways or laying certain ways. That's 25 bucks to go see a chiropractor that I don't have. I have felt out of it for the past 2 days, still feeling somewhat dizzy when I stand up, and today my vision is REALLY bad. Maybe I just need some extra rest? I have no clue, but I have to get my brother working tomorrow. Life is a mess. An utter mess.
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Still no heat except for one small space heater.
I've been sick for 3 days. Probably just a cold, but I feel like death. I have a low grade temp. I did an at home Covid test that was negative. I called the consulting nurse and, as usual, she was NO help. She told me to take another test and if it was still negative, to drink plenty of fluids and rest. Yeah, yeah, I know. That's would have been my advice had I been on the other end of the phone. I want a magic bullet! I want to be better NOW!
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16th February 2023, 05:29 AM
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I hope you feel better incredibly fast, PNurse.
 Senpai, how long were you on the benzo, and which one was it? Dear god, did you do it cold-turkey? I've been through benzo withdrawal several times between 1986 and 2004, and it was much like what you're describing -- and it's pure, dangerous hell. It can kill you with seizure activity. You don't have to answer me, obviously, but if this is what's going on please get yourself to an ED and tell them. Long time benzo use should never be discontinued without a slow taper.
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17th February 2023, 01:10 AM
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I have been through benzo withdrawal before due to the incompetence of our healthcare system. Easily the scariest moments of my life, this included. I'm very proud of my tapering, actually. At one point in my teen years, I was on 2.5 mg of it, plus various other drugs. I was just.. that ill. Now, I'm down to the lowest we can go on ALL of my medications (mental health related) and no one can make me go any higher ever again! It was a one and done scenario. I don't feel well because of other things. My body just really is putting my through the wringer in particular recently. One thing after the other, compounding in so many different areas. Ah, the life of being chronically ill... Thank you for your concern though. Extremely appreciated.
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For future times, yes, there are ways you can taper from .05 mgs of lorazepam by way of switching to a benzo with a longer half life. Diazepam, for one, works well as it comes in 10, 5, and 2, and the 2's can be halved. Benzo withdrawal doesn't have to be as miserable as it generally is for most if you have a doctor keeps up with CME.
I'm here in the background if you need to whine.
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Glad you got the heater, picunurse, it's getting real cold tonight and you need all the BTUs you can get. It hasn't cracked freezing yet today and tomorrow it's about the same--sure, lots of places in the country have it way worse on the regular but this is unusually cold for the PNW and I have most of a foot of snow on the ground out there. Not at all normal for the area but at least my pipes ain't froze this time. *knocks wood*
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My rant is that I spoiled my son.
He split up with his wife, and needed help financially. Well, shit, they've needed help for YEARS! Anyway, after they split up I was helping with his rent. I gave him $2500 a month for 4 months! Mr Rebo is about to retire, and we can't just keep giving him money! So towards the end of January we told him the Bank of Mom is closed! He understood. So my rant is - I'm worried about him! He hasn't been able to take care of his bills. We also had paid his light bill after they turned off his lights for non-payment. I don't want to call him to see how he's doing, because I'll feel like I'll have to help him. He also doesn't ever call me just to shoot the shit, so if and when he calls me I will be filled with dread. I live with this low-level anxiety that he's going to end up homeless. And let's not forget the 18 year old granddaughter. Aaagh!
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24th February 2023, 05:45 AM
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He was renting a house, due to the fact he has dogs - one of which is a German Shepherd. His rent is $2150. He has terrible credit (bankruptcy), and had no time to search properly for a better deal because his wife cheated on him and they split up and sold the house they had bought.
ETA: It's a long terrible story.
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That sucks hard, Rebo, but sometimes you just have to let them crash and burn. Stop offering money. Offer the granddaughter and ONLY her, and maybe the dogs, a place to live. He has to get it together or yeah, either find a cheaper place or go homeless for a while. Sucks but as you point out, with retirement coming you can't afford to keep both households afloat. You and Mr Rebo EARNED that retirement, what has your son done to earn HIS? I know the feeling though, believe me, but there are some booboos mom simply cannot fix.
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Sorry Rebo, that is really hard.
My rant is that while you lot freeze my best friend had to grab her family and run from a fire last night, another friend had to do the same Wednesday in a different place. Both fires are still burning though contained. Yesterday’s is not far from the place I took the snapshots I posted recently. We’re all hoping it doesn’t jump there because that would be extremely hard to stop
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I can't take their dogs. They are destructive, and the GSD will eat my baby Lola. I will give the granddaughter a place to live if it comes to that. Son can go live with his girlfriend, if she'll have him.
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And paying parents back over time should be on that plan too.
We have some issues with my sons-out-law and I have no doubt they would be here sponging off mum if I wasn’t around. I don’t fear murder, they love me and I them but they really haven’t settled in to adulting. They are uncomfortable with it in their 40s. It is exasperating.
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wow, major bad shit happening to people I care about. Fires???? shit. adult son not adulting?? shit. I'm so sorry.
mine - was having an ok day until I was at the store and a cashier that we've 'known' (in that impersonal way you know a cashier who you nearly every time you go to the store), asked me where my husband was. yeah, another gut punch. came home, dealt w/groceries, had lunch, looked on facebook and discovered that good friend of ours died this morning. We'd known him for decades, he was a customer of Enzo's, Enzo really was fond of the guy since in addition to fixing his amps and stuff, he got Enzo to 'create' systems where he could run/operate several different things from a single source or a remote source (the guy had a one man band act that included roaming the room and talking to customers, but having different words come out via a remote and prerecorded stuff, a back up band consisting of sex dolls that inflated to the 2001 space odyssey music etc) I'd known his was ill - I'd made arrangements to meet up w/him and one adult daughter in January, learned he was in home hospice. so I went over there and fixed a pot roast for them and visited for several hours. I was able to tell him that we'd planned but were unable to execute a plan where we'd visit his show (he was doing Vegas at the time) dressed as a priest and a nun, practiced our 'tut tut' faces, he thought that was great and got a kick out of it. not a surprise, but still shit.
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I'm glad you got to see your friend before he passed, wring. He sounds like he was a fun guy.
Not a solution, but a data point on enabled offspring: I had an uncle who was, shall we say, overly financially reliant on his mother well into his late 40s when Grandma died and the gravy train dried up. I wondered what would happen when she wasn't around to prop him up anymore. Turns out he has managed adequately for 20yrs.
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Sorry for the kicks to the innards Wring. I am glad you saw your friend but that must have been hard on numerous levels too and now the news. Time won’t heal you but it will add layers to your armour.
The fire was killed yesterday, I’m actually heading up later to hang with a kid while the rest of the family have a thing on. I can go through the burned bits or avoid depending on which train station I get off at. I’ll see how resilient I’m feeling, bushfire remains usually make me weep but now is a time to be looking for injured critters. ETA, oh I meant stepsons in the earlier post, no clue why I wrote sons-out-law (they did both give me daughters OL very briefly but they ran fast and long ago)
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California storms move west and….
California weather threatens Midwest. FU weatherman, it’s not California’s weather, it invaded CA too ya asshole. Don’t blame this on CA. Last I looked, CA has never made weather. Jeesh
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Left to its own devices, California mostly dries up and blows away--all inclement weather that isn't a massive heat wave is invasive weather attacking the native clemency. Guess next time we get a freak tornado we should have hysterical headlines about the Midwest tornados invading the Left Coast. I guess I should have sympathy for all these "meteorologists" who've been supplanted by the NOAA app on everyone's phone...but I don't. Get a real job, and GET OFF MY LAWN!
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Despite calls for eyes they must have got sick of suburbanites with no clue trampling around, they had signs up asking folks to stay out of the fire zone. That did not stop said clueless suburbanites of course but I rode around it. We’ve turned cooler and a bit damp to end our summer. Autumn officially starts tomorrow. I am really hoping that’s the end of the heat, the evaporative cooling is brilliant in our generally low humidity but pumping so much outside air in is hell on broken lungs.
I know you officially have another 3 weeks or so of this awful winter, may it start easing
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I'm so sorry about your friend, Wring.
I had a seizure this weekend, but fortunately, it was just a mild one. That's not saying much, though. I aslo found, and it makes me feel a teeny bit better (or at least, I can understand now!), that a lot of anti-convulsants can trigger depression. That makes a hell of a lot of sense. (I've heard some people in rare cases have feelings of euphoria when they get a seizure. Lucky them!)
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